Get your hands off my healthcare: men and birth control

February 16, 2012

Is healthcare a privilege or a right?

I believe that it is a right.  Some politicians disagree.  It is infuriating, but they have more control over the treatments I receive than I do!

This isn’t a problem unique to the U.S., of course.  I’ve been following the twitter rants from U.K. posters, and it looks bad there too.  And let’s not even get started on countries where women are treated like property.  I may cover those another night, but right now, I am thinking about U.S. healthcare (there’s an oxymoron), and who wouldn’t, with what’s happening right now?

The short version is that the president decided to follow the recommendations of a study, and make all contraceptive care free to women. In the U.S., health insurance is generally provided by employers (the unemployed and self-employed have options, but they’re usually lousy.)  So it was decided that all employers, except for churches, would have to pay for contraceptive coverage.  I don’t like the church exemption, but so be it.

The Catholic clergy went nuts.  They didn’t want their religiously affiliated hospitals, universities, etc. to be required to pay for birth control.  The solution?  The president arranged it so that any religiously affiliated organization with a moral objection could opt out, and the insurance companies would be required to provide coverage free of charge.  This works out for everyone, since it still saves the insurance company a lot of money in the long run.

The clergy weren’t happy.  Instead of uniting together to preach the sins of contraception to their parishioners, they decided to unite together against the idea that contraception would be provided to their employees.  Instead of trying to convince people they are right, they are trying to bully women.

And just to add insult to injury, the panel of religious leaders that was gathered consisted of only men.

Twitter has been aflutter, Facebook has been indignant, and I just want to wake up from this nightmare.  The best suggestion I’ve seen so far was on Twitter: That there should be a congressional hearing, made of only female legislators, on insurance coverage of Viagra.  [I apologize to the author that I didn’t note their name.  I would love to give credit to the right person for this wonderful suggestion.]

Now personally I think the real answer is simple:

Make men financially responsible for the fetuses and babies that they father.  (Sperm donors could be excused.)

Let’s say there was a law that the man (whether a one-night stand or something more long term) whose sperm impregnated a woman through intercourse (a simple paternity test would ensure accuracy) would have to pay 50% of her abortion costs or pregnancy costs; 50% of medical costs for both mother and fetus/child; 50% of clothing, food, school supplies, recreational activities, tutoring, and other childhood costs.  Now, with this law in place, would our politicians be having this inane debate?

And let’s leave aside for a minute the idea that contraception is immoral.  Let’s say you believe this.  And let’s ignore the slippery slope this would create (what else could employers object to on moral grounds?  The most expensive parts of coverage?)  What about the many, many women who take birth control pills for other reasons?  Personally, my estrogen levels are too low, so I take 1/2 pill every day to raise those levels.  This does not serve as birth control one bit.  Why shouldn’t this be covered like any other medication?  And what about my friend who had a very dangerous birthing experience with her son?  Her doctors say that she shouldn’t get pregnant again, that it’s too dangerous.  Is it worse for her to use birth control than to possibly get pregnant and need an abortion?  According to these men it is.  But then, that makes sense: a woman’s life just isn’t as important as a man’s, apparently.

Why are we debating the healthcare that men think women should receive?  A small group of religious leaders think that birth control of any type is immoral.  A bunch of politicians want to do anything that makes the president look bad, and since they represent some religious constituents, this suits their purposes just fine.  And the voters?  I just hope the voters make it clear that this is not ok.  Our medical treatment is not up for debate.  Our family planning is not up for debate.

My big regret today?  That I can not tell those jerks what I really think of them in person.

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The double standard of pursuing treatments

February 9, 2012

But they must have some idea how to treat you!?

I’m so sick of hearing that, but somehow I found those words coming out of my mouth today.  I hate when people say that to me.  I’ve accepted that there’s no straightforward treatment for my CIs, that the best we can do is slow things down.  I’ll never be “healthy.”  I can handle that.

But I hold my friends’ health to a different standard.  Sure, the doctors can’t cure me, but they must be able to cure everyone else!  Besides, my friend has a diagnosis.  They know what’s wrong with her!  Why can’t they fix it?!?

I get very protective over my friends.  She knows this.  And she’s known me for ages, since years before I had any symptoms.  So when I made that comment, we both just broke out laughing.  Imagine, Ms. R of all people suggesting that there must always be a cure!

It’s a double standard of sorts, but one that I’m fiercely protecting; I want my friends to be cured.  All of them.  Even if I never get better, that doesn’t mean they won’t either.  I want them to keep fighting for results.  And I’ll be there to support them the whole way.  I just hope they don’t give up.

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Komen vs. PP: Let’s focus on what matters

February 2, 2012

My personal life is so overwhelming right now that I can’t even write anything personal.  Maybe that’ll resume in a day or two, but for now, there’s always politics.

If you’ve paid any attention to the news recently, or to health-related Twitter feeds, you must know about the big Susan G. Komen for the Cure debacle.  In a nutshell, it’s pulled funding from Planned Parenthood.  A Komen board member said that this was due to concern over a Republican congressperson’s investigation of Planned Parenthood.  We all know that the Republican party has said that public funds to Planned Parenthood should be pulled because Planned Parenthood provides abortions.  The abortions are a tiny tiny part of what Planned Parenthood does.  They are not paid for with public funds.  They are legal.  They in no way hinder the breast cancer screenings that the organization provides.  I assume those screenings are the reason Komen gave them money to begin with.  So what’s going on?

Having worked in nonprofits for many years, I believe that most people do not do sufficient research before donating to an organization.  There are many sites that can help you research a nonprofit (http://www2.guidestar.org/ and http://www.irs.gov/charities/article/0,,id=249767,00.html are two of them) and they are generally underused.  Still, where should someone go to find out if funds will be withheld because of “moral” views or “political pressure”?  I wish I knew.

I want cures for the illnesses I suffer from.  I want cures for the diseases my loved ones suffer from.  I do not want political games to slow down or stop research on or prevention of those illnesses.  

Planned Parenthood helps women detect breast cancer (and other forms of cancer, as well as other problems) early, so that they can receive immediate treatment.  I  happen to have very strong views on abortion, but those are irrelevant here.  If the funds that Komen provides are used only for breast cancer screenings (and Komen can mostly likely make that a requirement of the funding) then why on earth should the funds be withdrawn?

Interestingly, this has made people (including non-media people) more interested in Komen’s practices, and they are noticing where their money goes (what percentage to fundraising, what percentage to research, etc.)  Like I said, I believe that everyone should do this kind of research before contributing to nonprofits.  So maybe something good has come of all of this.

Still, I simply do not understand why an organization that does so much good must constantly defend itself, simply because a small part of what it does is provide legal, safe procedures for women who need them.  For everyone looking to stop funding to Planned Parenthood I must ask: are you planning to fund checkups, cancer screenings, counseling, and everything else they do yourself?  No?  Then back off.

Let’s focus on what really matters.  Let’s focus on prevention and cures.

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Handling handshake germs

January 17, 2012

Handshakes bother me.  They bother me when they’re too limp, they bother me when they’re too hard, and they especially bother me when people are germy.

I’m no germaphobe.  I don’t go running away from germs.  But at the same time, I know my immune system won’t fight off a lot of what it should, so I try to be careful.  I wash my hands thoroughly (when I remember) and I try to wear gloves on the train in the winter.  So many times I have seen someone cough into their hand, then use that hand to grab the pole on the T.  WHY?!?  Weren’t you taught any manners?  Would it be so hard to use your other hand, or to cough into the crook of your elbow?  It’s the main reason I try not to hold the pole.

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But handshakes are so much worse.  They’re part of our culture, and in some situations they’re almost impossible to avoid.  I was at a social gathering with a friend a few days ago, and every time my friend introduced me to someone, they offered their hand.  I had to shake.  But with the many colds and flus going around, I wasn’t happy about it.  I washed my hands as soon as I got home.  At least it wasn’t an event with food.  Think about all of those parties or networking events where you shake hands with dozens of strangers, then pick up your little appetizer with your fingers.  Germs!  I don’t mind it too much in the summer, but with the flu going around….

I don’t avoid all human contact.  I hug my friends, play with my nieces and nephews, and take my chances on public places.  I don’t feel the need to wash my hands every time I get home from the outside world.  But at the same time, I’ll do whatever I can to avoid the stomach flu that’s going around.  I just wish everyone else would do the same.  Wash your hands, please.  Do it for more than 5 seconds (20 seconds is the medical recommendation, but most people don’t do that.)  And if you’re germy, buck the social norm and just don’t shake hands.  The rest of us will appreciate it.  And those of us with crappy immune systems will be especially grateful.  Trust me.

 

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