I have been asked over and over again what I do with my days since I don’t “work.” I understand where they’re coming from. I guess I used to wonder the same kinds of things. Now I realize how absurd that is.
First of all, I do work. I have a job: my health. I don’t get paid for it, but it’s my job. And it’s harder than any paid work I’ve ever done.
Several years ago I quit a job where I was unhappy. Suddenly I had so much free time! I learned new skills, 
improved my diet, got into a good exercise routine, went out many nights with friends, spent more time with family, traveled… it was a great time and I hated to go back to work. The thing is, I felt good then.
It’s not like that now. Now, I can’t do half of what I did then in a day. Now, I have to rest a whole lot more. I spend more time in bed. I read more. I want to go out but can’t. I spend huge amounts of time planning out my meals, pills, and other health-related stuff. And that’s before we talk about the paperwork.
Right now I’m hiding from the work. I’m writing here because the rest is too overwhelming. I should really be doing one of these (though some can only be done on weekdays):
- Reading one of the five library books I have out on hypothyroidism.
- Filling out one of the two forms that the long term disability insurance company sent me.
- Contacting my lawyer about the next steps in the long term disability insurance application.
- Trying again to fix a dental insurance status issue.
- Figuring out if a medical appointment I had last month will be covered by my current or my old health insurance.
- Filling a prescription.
- Making an appointment with a new primary care physician (pcp).
- Changing my health insurance over to a new pcp.
- Making an appointment with a resident in the new pcp’s office so that I can get referrals for specialists with whom I already have appointments, since I’ll need the referrals before I’m able to see the pcp.
- Entering recent lab results into my tracking spreadsheet.
- Creating a new tracking spreadsheet for daily symptoms.
Of course, in addition to paperwork, I also spend a lot of time and energy around food. I have to figure out what to eat that fits in my diet, 
what I’m able to prepare given the weather (I can’t use the oven all summer and I can’t use the stove on the really hot days,) and how to time my meals. Today I’m supposed to have lunch with my parents, but they want to eat around 1:30. That would mean I wouldn’t take my lunch pills until 2, and then I’d need to wait an hour before I could take my 2pm pills, so they’d have to wait until 3pm. That’s no good. So I have to eat earlier on my own. And of course, that doesn’t even include the time spent taking pills. Then there’s the 20-30 minutes I spend each week preparing my 
pills by filling my weekly pill boxes. Buying the pills also takes time, but that feels like a whole different level.
There’s always more reading and research to be done. I follow patient groups online, a few useful blogs, twitter, and I also read books from the library.
Up to now I’ve been talking about the health-related work. There’s still the everyday work. Cooking, dishes, and laundry exist in my world just like they exist in a “healthy” person’s world, but they take a lot more energy for me. Doing laundry and going grocery shopping in the same day means I can’t do anything else that takes much energy, and some days I can’t even do that much. Going out with friends means I have to rest the next day. For me, “rest” usually means not leaving my apartment. I stay home and read a lot. I watch some tv. I check Facebook. But I don’t go out or do anything strenuous at home.
And by the way, don’t forget that I spend 10-11 hours in bed each night. I figure this isn’t too bad, since I know people with similar conditions often spend many more hours in bed. Still, when you compare this to others my age who only spend 7-8 hours in bed each night, you can see that I lose 2-4 hours of “productive” time each day. I also need to rest after each meal. I’ve learned that if I eat and then immediately try to do something heroic, like put the dishes in the sink, I feel really horrible. Instead, I sit for at least half an hour after each meal. I use that time to watch tv and knit. It’s not exciting, but it works.
Then there are the medical appointments. Some weeks I don’t have any, others I have more than one. They are exhausting. They are physically tiring and emotionally wearing and I have no choice but to go to them. I also leave the house for errands, because even ill people need to buy groceries and toilet paper. On a really good day, I take a 10-20 minute walk. I wish I could do that every day.
Like others, I have hobbies. I would like to spend more time on them. But they require energy, even just small amounts. Most days I have to choose between my hobbies and doing my physical therapy exercises. Given that choice, I have to do the physical therapy. There’s a project I haven’t been able to work on in several months because I just don’t have the time and energy to do it.
Finally, I do want to have a social life. I can’t do it often, but I socialize when I can. I spend time with my friends. I spend time with my family. I occasionally go to events. When there’s the chance, I date. But I can only do one big thing per weekend (I may not be working, but they are, so these things are always on weekends.) That means my calendar is already booked into October. If I go to a wedding on a Sunday, I know I can’t do anything the day before. If I go on a picnic on a Saturday, I know I’ll be resting on Sunday. This is incredibly limiting, but I have no choice. I’m just thankful if I can go to those events; very often I can’t.
No wonder I haven’t had the time to buy new glasses. I’m too busy not “working” at a “job.”
If you can relate to this, please pass it around to your friends and on social media. I’d love to help more people understand that not having a paying “job” doesn’t mean we’re not working.
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under my covers with a flashlight and read until 3am. I just wasn’t sleep.
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