I haven’t updated you on the insurance nightmare in a while. Sorry about that. I guess I’ve been trying to ignore it. And now that I think of it, it’s funny that I chose to describe it as a “nightmare,” considering how it’s been messing with my sleep.
For those who don’t know, the short version is that I left my job a year and a half ago when my health took a nosedive and I received payments from short term disability insurance. I expected to return to work long before that ran out, but my health was worse than I’d wanted to admit to myself, so I used up STD and then applied for long term disability. LTD denied me, so I hired a lawyer and appealed. The company’s response to the appeal was due more than 4 months ago, so of course they haven’t given it to me yet.
Now that you’re caught up to everyone else, here’s the latest: I still don’t have a response. The company wanted me to see an independent medical examiner (IME) and a field investigator. If I said no, they’d deny my claim. I guess they’re still looking for some way to deny me? I don’t know. I saw the IME. I met with the investigator. Both went well, I think, but it’s hard to really know.
Of course, both appointments were horrible and exhausting. Both involved local travel. Both were long, a combined total of 4 hours split over two days. And both were incredibly stressful. What if I said the wrong thing? What if they didn’t believe me? What if they thought I seemed to healthy? I need the money, but it’s also the principle! How dare they deny my legitimate claim! Especially when so many fraudulent claims go through. It’s just so wrong! So I had to make them understand.
When the time came for each meeting, though, it wasn’t hard to be convincing. I didn’t sleep well before each one. I was pale and puffy. The stress wore me out. By the end of each meeting, I was so fatigued that I had trouble focusing. I could barely understand what was being said. By the end of the second one, I was having trouble sitting up. How observant were they? Did they notice the way I rubbed various joints while I spoke? Did they see my twitching fingers? Did they realize that I didn’t stand up to say goodbye not to be rude, but because it took too much effort? I may never know.
I’m still in wait-and-see mode. I don’t know how long they will take to respond. I hope that it’s quick, because in a month and a half I will lose my health insurance if they haven’t made a decision. I suppose that’s a story for another day. Still, it’s all part of the same thing.
So instead of hanging out with wonderful friends tonight, including the one I mentioned the other day, I am home alone. Instead of having a fantastic time (because in our 20+ years of friendship, I don’t think I’ve ever seen them and not had a fantastic time,) I’m sad and lonely. Instead of feeling bad in the usual way, I feel much worse.
I need to get healthy. I need to get healthy so I can see my friends, date, and go back to work. And so that I can find a way to change this barbaric insurance system.
I;m a bit lost for words your pain and anguish hits me dead center in the heart. There are no words to make it better so I;m not going to soft soap you. I think we must be linked as I’m having the same rubbish over here but with my school and pension.
I feel as though I just want to come and see you and have cake and a chat – sort out the world. Lol!
Healing thoughts coming your way.
Good luck with your pension stuff! I hope we both get satisfactory resolutions soon!