The first time it happened, I was baffled. Waking up during the night isn’t so unusual, but staying awake for hours before falling asleep again is beyond odd.
It happened a bunch of times, but finally I got into a good sleep pattern. Between my CPAP for sleep apnea, various supplements, good bedtime routines, etc., I was doing ok as far as sleep went. Not fantastic, but ok.
Until a couple weeks ago. At least 5 times in the last 2 weeks I have woken up during the night and stayed awake for a while. Sometimes I have thoughts swirling in my head. Sometimes I feel like I can’t breath with my CPAP on. Sometimes I’m in pain. But always, I’m awake. Too awake.
This morning, not for the first time, I saw dawn break. I’m not a morning person, and I have only ever voluntarily seen dawn 3 times in my life: once because I knew it would be beautiful to see dawn over the Atlantic ocean where I was staying and so I woke up super early to see it, once on an airplane where the time difference made it easy, and once when some friends and I stayed up all night talking and laughing and watching movies (ah, youth) only to discover as we finally turned out the lights that it was actually getting light outside already. That’s it. The rest of the times have been far from voluntary.
Like this morning.
Last night went something like this:
- Wake up.
- Realize something isn’t right.
- Look at the clock.
- Look at the readout on my CPAP and realize I only wore the mask for an hour even though I had slept for 3.
- Put on CPAP mask.
- Try to shut off the thoughts running through my head. I’m not stressed out, just too awake to stop thinking.
- Try to sleep.
- Finally give up on sleep.
- Go to the bathroom.
- Drink water.
- Try to sleep.
- Can’t sleep.
- Read a book for a while.
- See that it’s getting light out.
- Feel sleepy.
- Notice that it’s 6am.
- Debate staying awake for the day at this point.
- Remember that I have only slept for about 3 hours, and only 1 hour with the CPAP.
- Put on the mask and go back to sleep.
- Wake up to a loud noise and feel tired and irritated. Why didn’t I shut off the alarm when I was awake during the night?
- Snooze the alarm.
- Sleep for a few more minutes, then give up and stay awake. At least I got to sleep for another 2 hours.
That was bad. Even worse was trying to focus today. I didn’t get out of bed until 10am. I was awake, but dragging. When I got up, the world had started the day without me. People kept texting me. I responded, until I just couldn’t manage it anymore. A friend was trying to figure out where we should meet up the next day, but I couldn’t handle making decisions. It was hard to focus. Wait, did I say that already? Everything was a bit tough to grasp. Everything was exhausting.
A friend suggested I call a doctor, but who? I saw my sleep doctor recently. There’s nothing more to be done. I have a complicated condition that’s hard to treat, and they’re doing the best they can. There’s a medication that could help. One. And it’s in a class of drugs that I’m allergic to. I take supplements that help, but not consistently. Medical marijuana helps, but I don’t want to use that every single night. So I just have to try and stick it out. It sucks.
Now it’s night again, and almost time for bed. Tomorrow night I’m going to a show that I have been looking forward to for months. I have the ticket. I have plans to go with a friend. So please please please I just need to sleep through the night with my CPAP mask on all night long. Please. If I do that, I know I’ll be able to function.
If only I had a choice.