More pure selfishness

August 12, 2011

There’s this small dead-end road by my office building and it only has two parking spaces on it, both handicapped, both clearly labeled handicapped.  More days than not, I see people parked there illegally.  It’s not in view of a main road, so I guess they figure they’re less likely to be ticketed.  Meantime, that doesn’t mean people need the spots any less!

So today I’m walking past, and there’s a van parked illegally in one of the spaces.  A truck is parked such that it’s not in either space, but it’s blocking both.  Right.  So the driver knew the spaces were there and knew they weren’t supposed to park there and made sure to obey the actual letter of the law, just not the spirit of it.  Real nice.  So I did the only logical thing: I called the town police.  I hope they ticketed both vehicles.  I went back to work, of course, so I have no idea what, if anything, happened.  I have to wonder what those drivers were thinking?  What went through their heads that they figured they needed those spaces more than someone with a disability?  If it was their mother, brother, friend, child who was disabled and needed that space, would they have acted the same way?  I’ll never know, but I just can’t imagine what possible way someone could justify this.

Chances are, one day they’ll understand.  Until then, I’ll just keep calling the police to have them ticketed.  And tonight I’m emailing my state rep to find out about increasing fines for parking illegally in handicapped spaces.  You might want to do the same.


Pure selfishness

August 10, 2011

This is something that bugs me a whole lot, even more than most other things, so you know it’s a lot.  I’m sure I’ll post about it again and again.  What am I talking about?  Illegally parking in handicapped parking spaces “just for a minute.”  I have encountered this more times than I can remember, and it happened again today.

What makes people think this is ok?  If they need the space for 10 minutes, that’s more important than letting a person who really needs it park there?  Today there was a passenger in the illegally-parked car, and he got a real earful.  To be honest, I explained the situation well (though a bit heatedly) and made good points.  He said his buddy was only parking for a few minutes.  I pointed out that in those few minutes, someone who needed the spot wouldn’t be able to park there.  I explained that this particular spot was for people who really needed it.  I don’t know if he got it or not, but I walked away feeling pissed off.  What makes people think that they can treat others this way? Are they so self absorbed that they don’t see what they’re doing?  Just how rude, inconsiderate, and selfish are these people?


Playing political hot potato

August 7, 2011

I read an interesting article today about the Republican presidential candidates’ views on embryonic stem cell research.  Actually, the article was about whether or not each would support funding for this research.  If you are unfamiliar with embryonic stem cells, here is information from the NIH.  This is a topic I have followed for many years, and I certainly have opinions on it.  I am expressing my own opinions here and no one else’s.  This is very controversial topic and I do not intend to offend anyone.  This is simply how I feel.  I will also state that embryonic stem cell research is very unlikely to help my conditions.  That makes it no less important of an issue to me.

First, let’s remember that we don’t know what these stem cell lines may or may not be able to cure.  That said, I think that if you’ve never had a serious illness, you are certainly entitled to your opinion, but you must also admit that you do not understand the emotional reaction that those will CIs will have.  I simply ask that you do not pretend that you understand.

Next, I do not think that religious views should be a part of this discussion in any way.  Many people use references to a bible or a higher being in these discussions.  However, if someone can impose their religious views on me, then I should be able to impose my religious views on them, and things get messy.  We are not a Christian nation, a Jewish nation, an atheist nation, a Buddhist nation, an Islamic nation, or a nation that is any other way devoted to a single religion.  Therefore, religion is not a part of this issue.

If I was given the choice of saving one baby from death or saving one million other people from death, I’d choose the one million.  If I was given the choice of killing one baby or killing one million people, I would reluctantly choose the baby.  What we’re talking about is less black and white.  In fact, there are many shades of gray.  Are we talking about killing a baby to potentially cure millions?  Not quite.  Are we talking about preventing the formation of a baby in order to potentially cure millions?  That’s closer.

Of course, the real problem is that we (U.S. society) disagree on when life begins.  Does it begin when an embryo is formed?  Does it begin when a fetus is able to survive independent of the mother/surrogate?  If you believe that life begins at the moment of conception, then I can understand why embryonic stem cell research bothers you.  However, instead of fighting embryonic stem cell research, I suggest that you fight the creation of the embryos to begin with.  The embryos used for this research are created with the consent of the donors, and they will be destroyed if they are not used for this research.  If you do not believe that life begins at the moment of conception, then this argument is harder to understand; there is no reason to argue against the research.  If a collection of cells can not survive on it’s own, then is it really a life?  Yes, there are organisms that are considered living even if they can not survive on their own.  They are called parasites.  Humans, however, are not parasites, and can not survive as such.  Therefore, I personally believe that life does not begin at conception.

Now, consider that an embryo is a collection of cells.  This is scientific fact.  In the case of embryonic stem cells, this collection of cells was formed in a laboratory.  It was not formed naturally.  In general, these embryos are going to be destroyed if they are not used for this research.  If the research does not occur, then what should be done with these cells?  I have not yet seen any of the candidates, or any other politicians, propose alternatives.  Should these cells be implanted in women?  What if the donors do not want the cells to be implanted in other women?  What if other women do not what them?  If the cells are considered a life, then how can be they turned into humans, and who would care for these children once they are born?  I believe that anyone arguing against embryonic stem cell research on the grounds that a life is being destroyed must have answers to these questions.  I do not believe the answers are relevant to the discussion, but I am curious as to why no one has suggested answers yet.

Now, let’s go back to the earlier questions.  If you believe that embryonic stem cells are created by killing babies, then I can understand that it does not matter to you how many people may be helped.  There are arguments for the research which center on the number of people who could potentially be helped and I think this is a bad approach.  We do not know how many people could be helped or in what ways.  What we do know is how the research itself is being conducted.  Our tax dollars pay for many different kinds of research on the grounds that it will help us collectively.  Some research succeeds and some does not, but it must be conducted in order to find out what the results will be.  The question is not how many people could be helped, but whether or not there is an ethical objection to the manner in which the research is conducted.  I do not believe that there is.


You know what happens when you assume…..

August 6, 2011

There’s a saying about what happens when you assume… I’ll let you Google it.  Why do people always assume that if you look healthy, then you are healthy?  Every time someone makes a comment like that, it hurts twice.  “You’re young, so this won’t be a problem for you.”  First, I have to deal with explaining why it is a problem.  Worse, it’s a reminder of what I should be able to do.  Yeah, “should” doesn’t exist.  I shouldn’t think about it.  But most of us do, right?  The “should” already haunts me.  I don’t need a stranger to bring it up.  For you folks without a CI, please don’t make any assumptions.  Just because someone isn’t in a wheelchair, it doesn’t mean they’re completely physically, mentally, or emotionally able to do everything you think they can.  I’d rather not have to print it on a t-shirt to make people aware.