With all the shit forced on us all from CIs, sometimes a little thoughtfulness can go a really long way.
A close friend of mine had a baby about a week ago. Leading up to the birth, I was so excited that she joked that her mother was the only person more excited than I was. It was an exciting birth, but everything went smoothly and they’re all happy, healthy, and at home.
Unfortunately, the timing wasn’t great for me to visit – I had family flying in from all over the country just a few days after the birth, all coming to attend a bit family event this past weekend, so I had to delay my visit. Finally, the day was approaching. She lives two hours away. Normally I visit for a few days at a time, but when her first child was born, I drove out for just a few hours, then drove home. That was a very long day. It was a Saturday, and I rested the next day and then went to work on Monday. It was exhausting. I did the same with her second child.
This time around I’m not working, but since I’m not feeling well, it will probably be more exhausting than the other visits. Still, I can’t wait to meet the little guy!
Then yesterday my friend called – the older kids have colds. The colds aren’t bad, but she wanted to warn me. How thoughtful is that?!? She’s juggling two little kids and a newborn infant, and she’s worried about my crappy immune system. She’s just so sweet.
We’ve been friends for ages, since back when my only symptom was pain (ah, the good ole days), and so she understands better than most what I deal with, even though I hide a lot from the world (not just from her.) And she knows that it’s not just about me being in a germy house – with little kids around, the germs spread more, and there’s no way I’ll visit without hugging the kids and playing with them.
It’s an easy solution – we’re just putting off the visit for a few days, to make sure everyone is healthy (oh, the torture of having to wait to see the little baby!) But I know too many people who don’t think that way. I see people shake hands when they have colds, cough into hands and then touch doorknobs, and generally be inconsiderate to the world around them.
How lucky am I to have a friend who is this thoughtful? We all need to have someone in our lives like this. She’s certainly set the bar pretty high for everyone else…..
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