Resting vs. Relaxing

November 19, 2011

I’ve been resting a lot lately.  I guess I’ve been resting a lot for a few years now, but it seems like I’ve needed it more in the last year or so.

Since I rest a lot, I want to be “active” whenever I feel up to it.  Now, “active” doesn’t necessarily mean going for a jog or running errands.  Sometimes that means writing this blog or doing the dishes.  Still, it always means doing something, and always doing something can be mentally tiring.

Last night I realized that I’d done all of the most important things on my to do list.  I’d even done my physical therapy (which is more unusual than I’d like to admit.)  I felt like I should do something else, but then it hit me: I should relax! 

Resting is not the same as relaxing.  I wish it were, but it’s just not.  Maybe both would involve watching tv, but the first happens when I feel lousy and I’m just trying to feel a bit better, while the second happens when I already feel ok and just want to feel more relaxed.  Think about it: how often do you watch tv or read a book not because you need to rest physically or mentally, but just because you want to sit back and enjoy the activity?

After a rocky start, my rare foray into relaxation went very well.  I decided to watch a movie, and even though the disc turned out to be scratched and will have to go back to Netflix, I found a great old 1940s movies on my dvr.  I love old movies, so this was a real treat.  I made some popcorn, and spent two great hours snacking, watching a funny movie, and knitting.  Now that’s  how to relax!

Relaxation is an important part of self-care.  How do you relax?  What will you do for yourself this week?

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Searching for fairness in healthcare

November 17, 2011

Continuing yesterday’s theme of the screwed up health care system, I just read this article about special medical services to give second opinions.  They reevaluate diagnoses and treatments and make changes as needed.

Now, doctors make mistakes.  They are human.  It happens.  I think it is responsible of patients to get second opinions.  So you may be wondering why I think this is a problem.  Here’s why: this service isn’t available to everyone!  I just looked at the Best Doctors web site, since they’re located near me, and I saw that the service is offered only through employers!  This is like the FSA situation, where only some people have access to a fantastic benefit.

Back in the day it made sense to tie health benefits to employment, but is that still really the case?  For those of you living outside of the United States you probably think this is completely nuts.  You’re right!  I’m certainly not about to defend this system.  Why should I get better health insurance now because of where I work than I had the last 10 years (my entire independent working life)?  If I change jobs, why should my benefits change?  If I get a new job that pays more or less or is located someplace else, those aspects will affect my life.  That makes sense.  What doesn’t make sense is that the amount I pay for medical costs will change.  What doesn’t make sense is that I may have to get new doctors.  What doesn’t make sense is that my medication may not longer be covered by health insurance.

Congress failed.  Yes, untangling health insurance from employment would be a huge undertaking, but wouldn’t it be worth it?  Mandating that employers provide health insurance sounds good, until you realize that many will provide only the minimum, and that this doesn’t help the unemployed at all.  We need a system is that is fair for everyone.  We should accept nothing less.

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Where’s the predictability?

November 14, 2011

Life is unpredictable.  I know that.  And to be honest, I tend to handle change fairly well.  Still, too much change at once is difficult.

Autoimmune diseases are tough to handle, but being able to predict certain things about the day can make a huge difference.  Knowing how active I’ll need to be, when and what I’ll eat, and when I’ll be able to rest all make it a whole lot easier.

While I’m not working, I’m making an effort to set plans in advance so that I have reasons to get out of the house and see people.  This is good for me.  I need and want to spend more time with family and friends.  But for some reason, three different people needed to reschedule our times this week, two others needed to set something up last-minute, and I heard from all of them today!  To them, this isn’t a big deal.  Move a lunch, change a date, switch things around…. easy, right?  But this is making me nervous.  It’s a lot to juggle.  I need to make sure I don’t do too many things on the same day, so I need to find a way to do everything and see everyone in a way that makes me happy and not too worn out.

I don’t know yet how I’ll work all of this out, but at least I know one thing for sure: my health comes first.  I’ll do my best to work out everything else, but I will make sure that I feel good at the end of the week.

 

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Being two people

November 13, 2011

Sometimes the dichotomy amazes me.

I spent the day yesterday indoors.  I read email, watched tv, and did a bunch of other things that at the moment I can’t remember.  I was very aware of the pain I was in.  I was generally unproductive.  I got no exercise (aside from some minor physical therapy.)  It was a gorgeous fall day.  I knew I should have gone outside, but I just didn’t want to.  I suppose I’ve been a bit depressed lately.

Then last night I went to a friend’s party.  I’d been looking forward to this for a long time.  I met some great people and had a lot of fun.  I forgot about the pain.  I wasn’t depressed.  I had a wonderful time and felt great and, aside from avoiding certain foods and being careful how I distributed my weight as I stood, I completely forgot that I had any health issues.  It’s was great.

It was like I was two different people yesterday.  I know that I need to make more of an effort to be that second person.  For starters, I will leave the house before noon every day.  I might just take a walk around the block, but I will get fresh air every morning by leaving my apartment.  I will make more plans with people so that I leave the house.  I will actually do the things on my to do list each day, instead of moving them to the next day (or week.)

That won’t fix everything, but it’s a start.

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